I volunteer for several organizations, sit on a few boards, and spend quite a bit of time in client and other meetings. Yet, I’m always amazed at how badly most people conduct a meeting. I just got back from a rather long meeting this evening (hence the minor rant), and while the folks hosting it were well meaning, it took quite a bit longer than it should have.

Meetings really should be simple things. The ethical obligation of the host or organizer, as I see it, is to be prepared, have a goal and respect everyone’s time. Most meeting hosts fall down on the job because they’re simply not prepared and/or don’t know how to take charge of the meeting.

One of my biggest pet peeves is starting on time. If I make time to attend a meeting, keep the chit chat to a minimum and let’s get down to business. Starting on time means I have a better chance of leaving on time. While this may be the highlight of your day, I can assure you I have other things to do.

Another pet peeve? Learn how to herd the cats! I’ve probably wasted a year or two of my life in unnecessary meetings, and one thing I’ve noticed is that good meetings have strong leaders. You’re not there to be everyone’s friend, you’re there to accomplish something. Take charge!

The other missing link to most meetings is the “ask.” You need to tell people what you expect of them before, during and before they leave the meeting. Set expectations, deliverables and deadlines. Set the bar and people tend to respect it. In my humble opinion, too many meetings land in limbo. And remember to follow up so they know you mean business.

Frankly, a bad meeting is disrespectful of everyone’s time and talent.